Exit nodes: offer one per network, send all traffic through a member

A member can offer itself as an exit node per network (off by default); it is
announced over the control channel (ctrl/4) once its iptables masquerade and
forward rules are in place, with a warning when kernel forwarding is off. A
device picks one member as its exit node via policy routing, with the agent's
own uid exempt from the tunnel; if the exit node disappears the rules stay
and traffic is dropped, loudly reported. CLI: `network exit-node`,
`exit-node`; tray: tile checkbox, warnings and a per-device icon with
confirmation. Linux only.

Co-Authored-By: Claude <noreply@anthropic.com>

docs/protocol.md

@@ -9,7 +9,7 @@ Two versions exist and are independent:
 
 - **Identity scheme**, `tsunagi-network-id-v1`. Frozen. Changing it creates a
   different network space for the same name and secret.
-- **Control protocol**, ALPN `tsunagi/ctrl/3`, `PROTOCOL_VERSION = 3`.
+- **Control protocol**, ALPN `tsunagi/ctrl/4`, `PROTOCOL_VERSION = 4`.
 
 Upgrading the crate or bumping the control protocol must never change an
 existing `NetworkId`.